We have read a lot of advice about what you should do when dating. The flip side is to avoid blowing yourself up by making some common, but avoidable, dating mistakes. We’ve all watched Swingers and witnessed the painful scene when Mikey leaves a million voicemails on the girl’s answering machine. ”Stop calling!” You want to yell to him. The following are five tips for things not to do while dating.
1. Don’t Facebook friend someone right away
While this may not be obvious, it’s not necessarilly a good idea to friend someone on Facebook immediately after beginning to date them. The oversharing of information, particularly right off the bat, is a turn off. Leave some mystery to your relationship and wait for them to friend you on Facebook.
2. Don’t drop the “L” bomb
Whatever you do, don’t tell someone you are dating that you love them. Not after three dates, not after ten dates, not for a long time. Liking someone and loving someone are two completely different things, make sure you know the difference before blurting out the L bomb.
3. Don’t sleep with someone on your first date
For that matter, you shouldn’t sleep with someone on your second date either. Take your time. Take a lot of time. Live your values. You will always regret having given up sex too soon. Waiting to have sex is important if you truly want a relationship with someone.
4. Don’t be needy
If you call, text or email someone, let them get back to you. Stop fretting. Multiple calls or texts without hearing back from someone is a recipe for disaster. Never send a text saying “Did you get my message?” You are desperate and this is a turn off.
5. Don’t bring up your dating history
For better or for worse, everyone has a past. You’ve dated people. You current boyfriend/girlfriend has dated people. One of the worst things that you can do is share the explicit details of your past relationships. Regardless of why you are bringing your past, it only serves to create negative feelings in your new relationship. If your current special someone is really into you, jealousy and distrust are two of the main reactions that will likely arise when you tell them about your past dating history.
